Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Two for Tuesday - yadseuT rof owT

Are you being abused? Are you an abuser? Two questions...

Here is some information from two links to help you answer those questions.

The following is from the Violence Unsilenced site.

Domestic violence can be emotional, physical, psychological and/or sexual. While many abusers use some combination of these forms of violence, sometimes abuse doesn’t involve physical violence at all.

Here is a list of some common warning signs of emotional abuse:

Dictating your behavior, privileges and/or opinions.
Accusing you of flirting or having sexual relationships with other people.
Monitoring and/or criticizing your clothing, make-up, weight, and physical appearance.
Constantly asking where you are going, who you’re with, etc.
Insisting that you spend all or most of your time together, isolating you from family and friends.
Becoming angry or taking offense when you have a different opinion than he/she does or when you don’t take his/her advice.
Demonstrating ownership and possessiveness over you (”I can’t live without you,” “You are my whole world,” etc.).
Displaying anger, jealousy, and/or frustration easily; acting ‘hurt’ when not getting his/her way; getting very upset at small inconveniences.

Do your words (or lack of them), body language, or actions make you an abuser?

Please go HERE to read one man's personal account of his "Journey Into Violence". Please read all three of his articles.

Most of us would never guess that people we know are being abused or are abusers - but no one really does know what goes on behind closed doors.

Be informed - Be aware - and if you are in this type of relationship on either side, be honest with yourself and make a change.

Also, if you would be so kind as to go to the Blogluxe Awards and vote for the Violence Unsilenced site in the Most Inspiring Blog catagory.



Tricia said...

Debbie, thank you for adding your voice to such an important imperative that affects all of us. Domestic violence and families in crisis is a part of everyone's lives, or it should be, and the more voices that are calling out to create awareness and hope, the better.

Horribly, shockingly...

1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually assaulted before the age of 18.

1 in 6 women and 1 in 33 men are victims of domestic violence at some point in their adult lives.

Thanks again for adding your voice, and for the links.

maggie, dammit said...

Thank you so much for this! I really appreciate you helping to spread the word about Violence UnSilenced. Thank you.

Mojo said...

Awesome! Thanks SO much for your support of VU and those for whom it exists. I think Tricia's numbers are actually pretty conservative. I've heard that the incidence is 1 in 4 women or even 1 in 3. Depends on your sources I'm sure. But the actual number is immaterial. One in six-billion is too many.

And even if you're among the fortunate 3 in 4 that never becomes a victim, we all have a dog in this fight. So thanks again for your support. The solution begins with awareness and a willingness to bring the problem into the open.